I hate my cheating mother (63)

My mother likes to display this "wholesome and pur image" but in reality she cheats with my dad who work as a overseas worker. My mom likes to frequent a neighbors house that offer "personal in house nail salon" but at a young again I always wonder why there are more men in the room than women. During that time I was six years old, she hated if I followed her to that particular house. When ask about what she's doing she is always angry and avoid any discussions. Back to when I was in six grade, one schoolmate came rushing to my classroom and called me. I came out and was informed that a woman came to mom's classroom and made a scandalous claim that she is the wife of the man my mom is cheating with. Imagine the horror and humiliation I felt during that time. The story didn't end there, now some neighbors wives also confronted my mother. It was so awkward because I know and friends with their kids. Three years after the most awkward, neighborhood cheating confrotation my mother applied to Canada to escape the embarrassment. After three years in Canada she sponsored us her family of five. The first day I saw her I just felt disgusted cause I can tell she is still the same or worst. Fast forward to present day she is now 63 and she still cheats on my dad. Before she would ask the guys to drop her off in front of the house while my dad was away for work. Now she travels with them in a pretense BUT so obvious that is not part of her parttime hourly care giving job. Most of the times, I really want to kick her out of my house. But I just leave all to God or karma to punish her sins. Mind you she is active church goer which sometimes the place to meet her men. The whole family knows and gave up on her. I feel so bad for my dad seeing my mother openly lying and cheating on him. Next week she will have her on-the-job travel, this time to Winnipeg. I want to sell my place and move somewhere else but I can't abandon my poor dad. God bless us all. I hope divine intervention comes soon.

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@ she is active church goer

Jul 2, 2024 at 8:37pm

Sadly that's all too typical. Unfortunately too many churches are the design of skillful deceivers but there are a few good ones so if churches are anyones choice, don't give up, but be discerning. Whatever happens in this inreasingly challenging world, I find hope and help in the teaching of 'Opportunity in adversity.' Yes, diamonds are formed under heat and pressure. I send you love energies to grow and learn through your inter-generational traumas. Like the wonderful singer Jimmy Cliff sang in his song 'You can get it if you really want' but you must try, try and try. You'll succeed at last."

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"I feel so bad for my dad"

Jul 3, 2024 at 7:58am

Seeing as you've known about it for over 50 years and not told him- you obviously don't.

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I get it

Jul 3, 2024 at 8:41pm

But having lived a similar experience with a philandering father, I can tell you that it’s up to the people involved to figure it out. Sure, it hurts the kids, but it’s not your marriage and it’s not your life. Pay attention to your own business and let your parents figure out theirs. As a senior who has been in a couple of long term relationships of my own I can assure you that there’s plenty that you cannot know about their relationship, or why they each do what they do. It easy to sit in judgment of your mother because you think you know everything about her and her life. But trust me, you don’t. As you mature, hopefully, you’ll understand that everything is not always as it appears on the surface.

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